HAPPY LESBIAN VISIBILITY WEEK!
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Throwback to when my beautiful girlfriend
@shneedzawoman painted me and we actually got to be drag lesbians for once π
This week is important and cool, because lesbians are often overlooked even within our queer community, and in fact it took me a long time to get comfy with calling myself a lesbian.
Even as I deconstructed parts of my sexuality and managed to recognise and remove a lot of the comp-het pressures I'd felt when I was younger, the jump to 'lesbian' felt like such a far leap. I felt like I wasn't allowed to call myself a lesbian, or that I wouldn't be taken seriously or believed if I told people I was a lesbian.
I settled for being 'queer but with zero interest in men' for some time before I was able to fully embrace 'lesbian', not only as label, but as an identity.
I have my beautiful, and very proudly lesbian girlfriend
@shneedzawoman to thank for helping me get there. She let me find the words in my own time. In fact, she never even asked me how I identified. She never labelled me. She never really cared, she just wanted to love and be loved.
She made me feel accepted as I was, and that took all the pressure off and let me get to know myself on my own terms. And, of course, seeing this beautiful woman I was falling in love with so proudly call herself a lesbian made me less afraid of trying on that label for myself.
I love you so much,
@shneedzawoman and I love being a lesbian. I look forward to being big ol' lezzies around the town for years to come, and making every week #lesbianvisibilityweek π§‘π€π